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Deploy the emotions intelligently in your job search

emotional intelligenceA normal human being displays emotions as a reflection of his state of mind. These can come to the foreground directly or may appear in a disguised form somewhere else. If you are angry you can show it by being rude to whosoever comes in contact (direct) or channel it on someone through the social media (indirect). The whole crux lies in the use of the emotions intelligently for your own good. You can do it in your everyday life and also when you make a job search. Here are the ways to do it.

emotional intelligence-1Dealing with your ego: When you are out of a job, it may be very difficult to digest. False pride keeps you from sharing it with your colleagues and friends. You may behave like an Ostrich and bury your head in the sand to feel that no one will be able to see you. The people already know and are aware. When you break the news on social media and call up your colleagues the message is clear that you are looking for a job. As you played with your emotion correctly the people will go out of the way to help you.

emotional intelligence-2Positives and negatives: Every person has some strengths and weaknesses. Emotional intelligence lies in identifying them and using them to your advantage. Working hard to perfection is a bad example of strength but working diligently to achieve the company goals is right. Inability to communicate properly is a weakness and must be followed by what you are doing to improve it.

emotional intelligence-3Influence of others: A man is known by the company he keeps, is very true. The company can have the positive or a negative influence on you. You are out of a job and prefer to spend time with a colleague in a similar situation; drinking and blaming the management will not get you anywhere. You have to get over your negative emotion and seek the company of friends who are positive and know how to get out of sticky situations.

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Help the needy: When you are in need of something you must be willing to help others. Someone might need a reference or may come to you for help with a company presentation. When you show that you care, you gain the respect of others and they are willing to reciprocate. Human beings are selfish by nature and it takes a lot of emotional control to break this habit. If you are able to handle this trait intelligently it will take you up the ladder in your career.

emotional intelligence-5Make the right impact: A person seeking a job sometimes makes the mistake of showing a dejected face to the interviewer. He may be under tremendous pressure financially and from the family but the interviewer is not sitting there for charity. He may sympathise with you but will not give you the job. Just contrast the situation with a candidate with a cheerful disposition. The interviewer will definitely like to proceed with him for the interview. In both the cases, you are making the display of your emotions. The difference lies in making the intelligent choice. Use your EQ to your advantage.emotional intelligence-6

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The author is a veteran of the Indian automobile industry having spent more than 30 years there. The articles are based on the experience and learnings gathered during the course of his career. The writing is also interspersed with the advances and change ideas influencing the careers of the people.


  1. Wow! I never knew that emotions also played a role in job search. The author has brought out the characteristic and its impact very clearly. Good effort.

  2. I made the mistake of joining hands with a negatively oriented person when I lost my job. We used to sit and waste time on unproductive things from morning till evening. All we used to do was to blame the system, the government and everyone else for our misery. A chance meeting with my old college friend brought me to my senses. He made me realize that I was getting nowhere with what I was doing. I changed my tactics from there on and within 15 days I landed myself a new job. It is very true that the company you keep has a major influence on your life.

  3. I used to help my colleagues and people in other departments in whatever way I could but without compromising on my duties. This helped me in making a good reputation in the organization. It paid me back in the multi-department meetings where I was able to garner support for my projects with ease. The author has definitely a point with the emotions.

  4. I know of a guy who vented out his feelings against the previous company manager in an interview. He laid a number of allegations against him only to find later that the he is a close friend of the HR manager where he appeared for the interview. Needless to say he never heard from the company. One has to be very careful about his or her emotions especially in the interview. The blog has brought out the subject very correctly.

  5. It is true that many a times the people do not want to share with the world that they are without a job. As rightly indicated in the article they think that the world will not know. However, they are grossly mistaken. The news travels much faster than they can imagine. Sharing the news and announcing that you are looking for a job will make the difference as your close friends and colleagues will help you out. It is a practically tried solution and I agree fully with the author.

  6. Weighing my positives and negatives has been an important exercise for me and has given me a lot of insights. I keep on improving my skills and it has been beneficial for me. The potential emotions and controls highlighted in this article are very potent and can augur well for your career.

  7. The control over emotions is very important when appearing for the job interview. Also you cannot get egoistic and expect that the interviewer is bound to select you based on your credentials. It is very clear that no one is indispensable.

  8. We cover ourselves up with our emotions and the inner self is buried under it. The face that we present to the interviewer is not out true self. The writer of this article has rightly pointed out that we can use our emotions correctly to project our inner self to the interviewer. This way he or she is able to understand us better.

  9. I was venting out my negative emotions against my colleagues and workmen in the form of shouting at them for small matters. I had thought that this will make them afraid of me and I would gain in stature. Little did I know it was having a negative impact and some of them complained to the HR. I was called for a counseling session and warned later for my behavior. The points brought out by you in the article are absolutely correct!

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